It is posssible that some of you have heard this phrase before. Whether you understood it or not is a different story. Nobody that I know ever consciously choosed to bring hardship and dispair upon themselves yet in some cases this becomes a necessary part of this dynamic.
Look, everyone has good days and bad days, however the most difficult part of this experience is finding a way to make the bad days go by faster and disappear a.s.a.p. We all know that deep dark pressure that eminates from the pit of our stomach when we are faced with stressful situations, yet most of the time we do more harm than good in getting rid of them.
One of the keys to this condition is to totally and fully experience these emotions. Yes, I am asking you to feel sorrow completelly when you are sorriful and sad when faced with great and overpowering sadness. The more you let yourself go through this process the sooner it will change. What it changes to is up to you, but it won't remain the same as long as you are letting it run its course.
Part of the resistance that we put on ourselves is to push the bad emotions down inside of ourselves rather than feel them. This is poisonous to you psyche and will cause these emotions to gain immense strength the next time they surface. Now you risk the chance of them taking on a form other than the original conditon displayed. You most likely will be making it easier to lash out on an unsuspecting friend or acquaintance who somehow triggers your response.
Nobody wants to have to go back an apologize for their negative actions, especially when they could have been much less damaging if only you had allowed yourself to go through the emotions from the beginning. Remember it is easier to say; "I just need some space, I am going through something right now", then to have to say; "Man I am so sorry for what I said to you before, I really didn't mean to do that".
Let it up and let it be!!!!